The goal in conflict repair is not to decide whose memory is correct. The goal is to help both partners feel understood, emotionally safe, and capable of handling the joys and challenges of life together. --Dr. Carey Incledon, Certified Gottman Therapist Many couples come into therapy believing that the main task in conflict is to figure out what really happened. Each partner wants to explain the facts, defend their intentions, and correct the other person’s version of events. On the surface,...

When couples tell me they feel disconnected, one of the first questions I ask is simple: “When was your last date?” Most couples don’t fall out of love. They fall out of time . Careers expand. Children arrive. Responsibilities multiply. High-achieving couples, especially, are incredibly skilled at building businesses, leading teams, managing homes, and solving complex problems. But the relationship—the foundation under all of it—often gets whatever energy is left over. And that is where slow...

Set up a family schedule for all seven days of the week—and stick to it. Do not make it too detailed, but, rather, have a general plan...